Charlie and Erika made a tremendous team and that was never more obvious than when they took the stage together, as they did on Faith Night at AmFest 2024. Charlie and Erika talk about how to make a marriage work, the responsibilities of husbands and wives, their weekly sabbath tradition, and above all: Total surrender to the will of God.
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Speaker 1: My name is Charlie Kirk.
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Speaker 2: I run the largest pro American student organization in the country, fighting for the future of our republic.
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Speaker 1: My call is to fight evil and to proclaim truth.
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Speaker 2: If the most important thing for you is just feeling good, you're gonna end up miserable. But if the most important thing is doing good, you'll end up purposeful. College is a scam, everybody. You got to stop sending your kids to college. You should get married as young as possible and have as many kids as possible. Go start at turning point, you would say, college chapter. Go start attning point, you say, high school chapter. Go find out how your church can get involved. Sign up and become an activist. I gave my life to the Lord in fifth grade, most important decision I ever made in my life, and I encourage you to do the same.
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Speaker 1: Here I am Lord, Use me.
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Speaker 1: Doesn't she look so beautiful? Everybody?
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Speaker 3: I love you, I love you. This is special.
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Speaker 2: I was not anticipating this, I thought we would just kind of walk out, and they did the whole entrance things. You guys that have waited this long, you're in for a real treat.
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Speaker 4: So I asked him last night. I said, honey, what are we talking about tomorrow? And he goes, I don't know, like family life, maybe about the election. And I was like, you're lucky. I don't need no cards. He goes, I know that's why I married you.
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Speaker 1: Well, what a year. It's been wild in so many different ways.
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Speaker 3: Wild.
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Speaker 4: I first of all, I have to say this without getting emotional, but I'm very proud of my husband, and I know many of you are too idrn cried, but you have worked so hard, and I know a lot of you have seen obviously his video is on TikTok and all the stuff he does on campus, but no one gets to see him from my angle except for myself and our children. And the sacrifices that he made this year.
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Speaker 3: He's amazing.
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Speaker 1: I'm very blessing.
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Speaker 2: And I would not have been able to do any of it without Erica. And that's the real truth. I'll tell you what. Where I was going into battle, going into campuses, traveling the country, people that want us dead.
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Speaker 1: And they smear you and slander you.
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Speaker 2: And Erica is holding down the ford at home, and can you believe how good she looks? She had a baby six months ago. Can you believe that? I mean, it's unbelievable. And it's just this year has been so trying and difficult in more ways than one. You guys might remember a year ago, I gave the whole speech of here.
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Speaker 1: I Am Send me. Does anyone remember that whole thing that we did. Yeah, And it.
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Speaker 2: Was kind of this joke that we had. As soon as I gave that message, we got so sick. We didn't have Christmas last Christmas. We had Domino's Pizza for Christmas.
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Speaker 3: Well, yes we did.
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Speaker 4: I remember him getting off stage and I say, honey, do you realize what you just did. He's like, yeah, I just And I was like, good, no, no, you said here I am.
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Speaker 3: That is a very powerful statement.
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Speaker 4: And God's like, I see you, and he just I mean, it's.
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Speaker 3: Been a wild year.
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Speaker 4: But Charlie is so obedient to God, to the word of God, and it's been so humbling to witness the way that God has used him this year. Because he made that declaration a year ago saying here I am. I'm ready wherever you need me to be, Lord, I'll be and I'm your servant, and just put me out there in.
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Speaker 3: The thick of it. And you did it.
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Speaker 4: And it's but again now, I say, if you're going to stand on stage and say here I am, make sure you tell me beforehand so I know what we're going up against so that we're prepared.
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Speaker 2: And we look back at this last year and we really left it all in the field. And you guys saw that maybe on the video on election night where we did not even have words when they announced Donald Trump to become President of the United States. And for us, it was very real, it was very personal because who knows what our life would have looked like if Kamala Harris would have become president. Who knows they would have come after turning point, They would have come after us personally. And so we just say a glory to God and the lessons that we learned throughout this last year. You know, we welcomed our son to the world back in May. This and balancing that with two kids under two. Erica deserves every prize.
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Speaker 1: She's the Patriot of the Year.
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Speaker 5: Award.
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Speaker 2: I'll tell you that that's the award she deserves. And just kind of juggling it all and keeping the marriage strong and keeping that bedrock strong and still doing our best.
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Speaker 1: And we did a really good job.
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Speaker 2: I only I think I missed three Sabbaths this year, only three times when we did not do the full Shabbat, which I'm a big believer in that all of you guys should honor a day for the Lord. Turn off your phone. It says it very clearly on the scriptures. For six days you shall work. On the seventh day you shall rest. And we do a really bad job of that as American Christians. We do a horrible job of honoring the Sabbath. In fact, the word in Hebrew literally means shabbat, which means to stop, to cease all of activity. And we should speak about how our family I could be traveling for six days, but as long as we get one Sabbath, it makes up for all those six days.
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Speaker 1: No phones, no technology, just family and quality.
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Speaker 4: Well, and it's quality over quantity. And you know, when GG sees you walk into the room, she just b lines for daddy.
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Speaker 3: But it's one of.
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Speaker 4: Those things too, I mean people have asked, like, how do you do it when Charlie's traveling, and like all of it, it's because we understand our biblical roles in our marriage. He is the head of the household, and I am not a servant. I am not a slave to the master. I am his helpmate. I am the guardian of the home. That is my domain and the enemy and the enemy would love nothing more than that territory because.
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Speaker 3: Those four walls are not just a home.
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Speaker 4: Those four walls are for when he comes home after battling and building, and those four walls are the walls.
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Speaker 3: I mean, we're creating our child's childhood, which is so special.
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Speaker 4: But it's one of those things where we understand our roles, and you know, we ask each other every single day, how can I be praying for you? Is there anything I can do for you to help make your day better? And I always want to know, like what do you need in order to when you get home take your shoes off, like an easy soft landing pad for each other. So it's just being a team and love one another and knowing that you guys aren't against one another, but we're in the thick of it together.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and then being able to go back into the war after that.
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Speaker 2: And I know what every guy is thinking in the audience, How do I get a wife like Erica? I know that's what you're all thinking. And the answer is you don't deserve it, and I don't deserve it. It's by God's grace that's the answer. But in all seriousness, you know, we get a lot of questions about dating, and you know, I'm sure a lot of people are wondering. I mean, I have a lot of thoughts on this. But there's this question of how does the church, how does the conservative movement win back young women and bring women back into this idea of you know, traditional practices and roles. How should people think about that?
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Speaker 4: I mean, I feel like it should be a duty of the church to help teach Titus to to women to understand how to be a biblical woman and society. I think it was Elizabeth Elliott that said being a woman does not make me a better Christian or a certain Christian, but being a Christian makes me a very different woman. And I think understanding, yes, your biblical role, but also like you're be the woman that your future husband deserves, Like, be the woman that you know God wants you to be. You don't have to be out partying, don't you know, be crazy thinking like I'm running out of time when your God is the author of time, So just chill, you know, like you're going to find your human God knows your timing. And I think that that's another thing right now that you see too. You know, young men and women, you hear it all the time, like where am I going to find my future speuse? How do I find my future speuse?
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Speaker 1: Maybe at America Fist, but maybe I know, so.
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Speaker 3: You never know. But it's you know, it's one of those things.
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Speaker 4: Where it's really important that you you have to have an environment where it's conducive towards swimming in a stream of significant tents where you know you're around people that are pouring into you, that are loving on you, that are a conducive environment for.
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Speaker 3: You to be the person that you need to be.
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Speaker 1: It's really important. Yeah, And I mean my advice to young men in.
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Speaker 2: Particular is you need to stop acting like grown boys and infants and actually become men. And that starts with it is not attractive. I mean, Erica kind of support this. It's not attractive to women. How much liquor you can drink, or how many drugs you could do, or how many women you've slept with. I think it's actually not interesting at all. It's the opposite. It's are you able to support the family and do difficult things and be able to bear an obligation to be able to do this very challenging thing called life. And what we've done is we have created a condition where it's okay for men to kind of continue to stay in that infant stage. And that goes for both men and women. Women you need to do demand and more out of men as well, and men you need to demand more out of yourself. And I say this all the time, which is I asked the question like, why are you drinking alcohol? It makes me feel good? Okay, that's a really stupid reason. Actually, I'm not saying if you want to drink, it's fine. I'm not trying to be a legalist about it. But to actually give me a good reason. Is it going to help you succeed? It's it going to help you flourish and help you thrive? And the answer is this. The highest performing people that you guys like at this conference are people that actually don't drink alcohol.
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Speaker 1: Tucker Carlson, Donald Trump, They don't drink alcohol.
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Speaker 2: Actually and again, if you want to do it, fine, do it in moderation, be responsible in all that. I don't drink again. I'm not trying to say it's because you know it makes you better.
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Speaker 1: Right, here's the thing.
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Speaker 2: Your mornings are easier, way easier to keep off weight, by the way, and immediately you become more focused and a much more clear thinker about the problems in front of you, and you never have to worry as if your mind and your being is going to be put in jeopardy by some substance you put into your body. By the way, you'll save a ton of money as well, just so we're clear.
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Speaker 1: Ton of money.
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Speaker 2: People say I'm broke, Like, really, how much you spend on liquor a week? And the answer is probably a lot. And going even deeper and beyond that, I think it's really important that we understand that the battle is between obviously your flesh and your inclination to try to do what you want to do whenever you want to do it. But that is why God gave us the law, and the law is a school teacher towards Christ because look, if it was easy, then we wouldn't actually need the law. You just kind of follow your flesh, follow your heart, do whatever you want to do. No, you actually must restrain your impulses and restrain your desires, and that is what actually marks a successful or person in pursuit of what is good, true and beautiful.
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Speaker 4: Well, and on top of that, think about it if you not just you, but if someone was drinking and totally inebriated and you got an emergency phone call at three am, Like, if someone really needs you, that loves you, that's not good.
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Speaker 2: And basically, if you get super drunk, you're telling the world I actually don't have that much important stuff going on. That's basically what you're saying that actually I don't matter other people that much. But when you don't drink, you're like I am willing to serve my neighbor, my friend, my spouse, my sister at any time.
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Speaker 4: Well, and then I get this question all the time, and I want you to share with it. You your father now, obviously, but what advice can you give to young dads that are either about to have their first child or just had their first child?
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Speaker 3: What would you I.
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Speaker 4: Mean, we've been through all of that, But how I mean, what would you say to help encourage them?
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Speaker 2: Well, I would say you need to understand the biblical role of the father. Again, I'm still learning this. I've only been at it, you know, for two and a half years. You're young, but when it to your child, you are tasked to protect them both physically, spiritually, and emotionally and really outside the house and obviously in other ways as well. Quality time is everything. You're not above any of the duties or the tasks of the roles, but you're also you as a father and as the provider. You need to get your act together so much that your wife never has a financial pressure ever on the family. And if you have not done that, then you got to get your act together. And let me tell the men out there, you do not spend a dime on video games or sports games or things for yourself until your wife does not have to worry about finances. You come last in the family when it comes to finances period.
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Speaker 1: That is your job.
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Speaker 2: Your wife gets whatever she wants, whatever she wants, the kids get whatever they want.
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Speaker 1: And I hear all the time they're like.
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Speaker 2: Well, it's really hard to meet ends meet, like let's go get a Beer'm like, you have no reason actually to do that, Like you are tasked with the provider.
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Speaker 1: Oh you want all the benefits of being called the head of.
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Speaker 2: The household, but in other responsibilities are the obligations and it comes with a lot of responsibilities. And so again I speak very directly with young men. Erica is the young woman outreach part of this, but young men need to be talked this way actually because they say, oh, I want to be a dad, Like, really, are you earning enough money? Have you done the right work? Have you asked for a raise, asked for promotion, got up earlier, stayed up later. To make sure your family does not have any financial pressures or issues. People say, oh, you know, it's not that easy. I understand that, But then you need to come last in everything in the sense where I'm not going to spend money in myself until my family is able to not have that kind of financial pressure. And guess what you as men are a lot tougher and a lot more productive and can work a lot harder than you think. You can push yourself even harder. You could do a double double, you could do an all night or you can do the rd eye flight across the country. You could push yourself to be able to provide for the family. Because here's the one thing I have found. Once you have kids, there is this primal thing that comes into you where if you think you have worked hard before, when you have to go feed a child and provide for a family, you are willing to go to the ends of the earth and push yourself in ways that you never thought possible. And that is your initial and most important task as a fault.
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Speaker 4: So last year was here I am what is the word this? I even told me yet, So I'm like bracing myself. What's a good word for twenty twenty five?
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Speaker 2: I mean, right now, my word is just thank you, Honestly, thank you to God, thank you to our creator for sparing us from this terror. I don't have anything more profound than that. Honestly, I'm just still kind of in this constant state of gratitude. And our posture before the election was the same as it is now. In one sense, God, what is your will? If your will is to see this country go into the judgment that we deserve, then we will praise you exactly. I don't know if you guys heard that or not, but as soon as I said judgments, some sort of oxygen tank exploded or something. It's very cosmic and so yeah, I mean, I just say thank you. And look, I'm actually excited for an off election years because I love reading, I love studying. I can finally get back to my hundred books a year. Kind of got off that this last year because I was just too busy reading the news and looking at polling and turnout data and precinct by precinct modeling.
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Speaker 3: And still listening to Prager.
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Speaker 1: I was still listening to Prague.
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Speaker 2: By the way, can we all just say a prayer for Dennis Prager right now?
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Speaker 1: An American hero that I.
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Speaker 2: Don't know if you guys know this or not, but Dennis is hospitalized in a very serious condition. I can't say more than that, but Dennis is in a very serious circumstance right now and deserves our prayers that God might heal him and God might bring him back to this stage right here on America Fest at some point, because we need Dennis Prager in this country. Dennis Praguer is an American hero.
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Speaker 1: But you're right, I did.
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Speaker 2: I continued listening to Dennis and Larry arn That is that is for sure.
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Speaker 1: So also I want to brag on Erica.
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Speaker 2: And in addition to being an incredible mother and phenomenal wife, she also runs a ministry in her spare time that helps you re the entire Bible in one year. You know what I'm talking about. It is called Bible inthree six five dot com. Write it down, go to libstar right now. Honestly, take out your phone. It is Bible in three sixty five dot com. What she does is she makes it so easy for you to read the entire Bible in one year. She will text you the verses, she will email the verses, and honestly, if you've never read the Bible, you should go read every single word of the Word of God. It will change your life, it will heal you, it will challenge you, it'll deepen you.
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Speaker 1: And she will do it in micro bits of how do you do it? Old Testament, New Testament, Solms and proverbs?
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Speaker 3: Right, it's only about seven minutes.
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Speaker 2: It's Bible in three sixty five dot com. It's free of charge. How many people have gone through it?
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Speaker 4: We have over one hundred and eighty thousand that have gone through the program since twe.
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Speaker 2: One hundred and eighty thousand people. Isn't that amazing that have gone through the Bible in one year. Lives have changed, people have given their lives to Christ. Marriages have been formed.
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Speaker 3: Her marriages have been formed through it.
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Speaker 4: Yes, but also too, I tell Charlie all the time, I'm like, look at this, because we get prayer reports and praise requests, like prayer requests praise reports, and we get some that are like, thank you so much for having this, And I'd look at him and I'm like, this is what it's all about. Like we get to be a part of people's faith journey.
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Speaker 3: That's so special. I love it. But no, it's thank you. It's a fun it's a fun ministry.
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Speaker 1: And the ministry is growing.
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Speaker 2: And she also runs Proclaimed Streetwear, which is the best Christian clothing line in the country. They have a booth out there that you can support. So she's an entrepreneur as much as anything else. But I highly encourage you guys Bible in three six five dot com tell them the story of how that kind of came to be.
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Speaker 4: That's in a very brief spark Notes version. I started for the first time twenty sixteen.
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Speaker 3: I was like, you know, what I need to read.
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Speaker 4: The Bible come to cover I never have before. And I created a program and I was like, I don't know who's going to do it with me. So I asked one of my friends, Jess, to join me, and she was very sweet. She was my accountability partner, and every day we would check in, what did you learn today?
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Speaker 3: What did you know? Which commentary did you use for this?
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Speaker 4: And we just kept diving deeper and anyways, at the end of that, almost towards the end of that, unfortunately my grandfather had passed away and that was a very it was a very rough moment for me because I loved him so much. And so once I read the full Bible in a year, I just prayed on, you know, God, what direction do you want to take this? And long story short, I'm not going to get into the deep details of it. But that's when Proclaim was born. That's when Jess and I decided we should invite a few more peoples. We just invited, you know, the handful people that are in our community and our friends, and then it just grew from such a small little and that's what's so beautiful is when you have those small little home groups or those little communities accountability communities and then have it watch grow from there. Is really really special. I mean it's not me or anything. It's all God's God's hands.
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Speaker 1: So I take no credit as we close here.
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Speaker 2: Any final messages for the attendees here, pastors here on faith.
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Speaker 4: Nick, That's tough because I feel like and just like you, we have been given such a beautiful blessing on a platter, like on a silver platter, and it's up to us to really just continue to build and be leaders and know that like we obviously were made for such a time as this, but truly just own it and be out there, be the hands and the feet. Don't be afraid to talk about your faith. Be bold, don't be afraid to say yes, okay, you.
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Speaker 3: Voted for Donald Trump.
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Speaker 4: But more importantly, you're a Christian and you're here for a purpose. And like I say, like your role is to make Heaven crowded.
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Speaker 3: That's why you're here. We're just here recruiting.
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Speaker 4: I say that all the time, but your role is to make Heaven crowded. And so just for some encouragement, thank you. I mean, honestly, you guys, being here is a huge Testament, but just thank you for supporting my husband and being there for him and all of the members. For the members only, for Charlie's podcast, thank you for supporting that because behind the scenes I get to see the team get so excited when new members sign up, and just to be able to see your support for his podcast and for his radio show as a wife, I mean, I can't even put that into words, so truly, from the bottom of my heart, thank you for being the reason why Amfest and Turning Point USA and my husband and the way they've been able to build things.
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Speaker 3: Thank you for being a part of that.
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Speaker 2: Bible in three six five dot com, How great is Ericakirk?
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Speaker 1: Everybody? Thank you guys. For more on many of these stories and news you can trust, go to Charliekirk dot com.

