Charlie and Erika Kirk's Advice on Family, Marriage, and More

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The Charlie Kirk Show is proudly sponsored by Preserved Gold, leading gold and silver experts and the only precious metals company. I recommend to my family, friends and viewers. Thank you everybody. How great is Erica? By the way, that's not easy to do. I'll tell you what, it's amazing. She's a incredible mom and doing we're working on Bible in three sixty five and proclaimed streetwear and then she gives an amazing address like that, and so so many friends here. You know, this is our tenth annual Young Women's Leadership SMIT. We've been doing this for ten years real women only, because there's only such thing as real women. I want to say a special thank you to our friend here, Karen Duddleston from the Dudlson Foundation. They've been so generously supporting us for years, So thank you about you. None of this would be possible. And so we're just going to chat for a second here, and then we want to open it up for questions from you, which is the most fun but no political question. I'll be here back, I'll be back tomorrow. We do that if you want to talk about all that fun stuff. Literally just want questions for both of us about relationships and raising kids and getting married and all that stuff that you might have questions about. That's what we want to focus this Q and A on. So Eric, a great job again, I love you, I love you. And so a lot of these young ladies have competing pressures right now. Some might even have parents that are like, hey, you got to get a job, you got to build your career, you got to build money. Marriage can come later. Marriage can come later. However, some ladies might be getting different advice from this conference or from even inside. They say, boy, I might want to get married sooner rather than later. How do they balance that in a godly and biblical way. 00:02:47 Speaker 2: That's hard because usually those voices are coming from your parents. I mean they were for me, and so it's hard because you're in that in between of honoring your parents but also knowing that is a conviction in your heart to have a family. 00:03:03 Speaker 3: If you want, you can. 00:03:06 Speaker 2: Literally write down what your career, what you want that to look like, on a piece of paper, put in an envelope, go pursue. If you find the right guy. That's ninety percent of the problem is find it the right finding the right person first, then building your life. And once you do find the right person and your family loves them, your parents are going to be way more understanding and into the fact of you having a family. 00:03:33 Speaker 3: I think that's ninety percent of this. 00:03:35 Speaker 1: So let me ask you raise your hand. If you had to choose between amazing career amazing family. You have to choose who here would choose amazing career? 00:03:42 Speaker 3: Rais that's fine if you do, please, like seriously, please raise your hand. 00:03:45 Speaker 1: There's a couple of hands amazing family. Although the hands got it okay. So for everyone that rowse the hand of amazing family, how many of you every single day? It's your purpose for being is finding a husband? Then handshold, then go up. But I thought you said you want an amazing family. You have to prioritize and aim at what you want the most. I might be the only speaker that says this in these next couple of days. 00:04:14 Speaker 3: You just have to make sure that you find the. 00:04:16 Speaker 1: Right you know, I know, but you have to prioritize it. 00:04:18 Speaker 4: I know. 00:04:18 Speaker 2: But you can't be like you can't be like a heat seeking missile where you're like you see a guy in the back room and you're like, hi, Like you can't you there's like some new Once I get what you're saying, I understand his sentiment. 00:04:32 Speaker 1: If you are not if you're not married by the age of thirty, you only have a fifty percent chance of getting married. And if you don't have kids by the age of thirty, you have a fifty percent chance of not having kids. You should know that. And now I'm not telling you anything that is that provocative. It's just the data, right, Having children our gift from the Lord, and unfortunately our culture deemphasizes it. And again, you get what you aim at, you get what you prioritize, and so I just it's interesting because every hand accept a couple. And that's what I'm not even saying which answer is right or wrong. It's just if that matters more for you, then everything you do on a daily basis should point towards that. 00:05:13 Speaker 2: To add on to that for the women who are getting married after thirty, that's okay. I'm trying to bridge the gap here because it is okay. 00:05:26 Speaker 3: It's not ideal. 00:05:28 Speaker 2: It's not probably the best statistical odd position for you, but it's but God is. 00:05:35 Speaker 3: Good and nothing. 00:05:37 Speaker 1: There's nothing wrong with it. Right, it's right, I find. 00:05:42 Speaker 3: No, it's good. This is good. 00:05:44 Speaker 1: If you just want happy talk, then that's fine. It's good. 00:05:50 Speaker 3: God is good. 00:05:52 Speaker 2: You'll find your human I found mine and amsing. 00:05:59 Speaker 1: So, how do you tell young ladies to navigate the pressures of hookup culture on a college campus where they feel pressured that if they don't get into let's just say, sexual situations with a male counterpart, then they will not be able to find a boyfriend or a husband. 00:06:18 Speaker 3: He's not meant to be with you like honor. He needs to honor your purity. Save it for your husband. That's simple. Save your husband. 00:06:31 Speaker 1: Talk more about how they should go about doing that, because the pressures are so enormous. From free contraceptives to the podcast they listen to. How many of you feel as if it's very difficult to maintain your purity on a college campus? Raise your hand? Okay, not Actually it's less than I thought, so it's easy. Good, No, I guess it's fine. How many how many people would you what percentage of young ladies by the time they graduate college do you think still are virgins? Less than twenty five percent? So it's not that easy. Okay, that's interesting. No, I just think I'm just trying to process it because I don't think the church talks enough about purity, right. I think it's it's incredibly important, and we should tell young men and young ladies to save themselves from marriage. It's a beautiful thing, right. 00:07:23 Speaker 3: No, I agree, because a lot of people will say, well. 00:07:26 Speaker 2: How do I know that I'm compatible with that person unless I test drive the car before I buy it. 00:07:34 Speaker 3: That's not a real thing. 00:07:37 Speaker 2: Don't listen to that lie, because when you make that covenant with the Lord on that altar, don't let that fire burn out from the altar. 00:07:45 Speaker 3: That love is so special and so powerful. You will have. 00:07:52 Speaker 2: Natural chemistry within that marriage. It's not like you're marrying a robot. It's like you're you marry your soulmate. You married the person who God made for you. 00:08:05 Speaker 3: You're going to be compatible. You can do You should know that. 00:08:09 Speaker 1: So then the question that a lot of young ladies have, but how do you know? How do you know this person is right? And second question, if these young ladies have a liberal boyfriend, should should? Should? Should they dump him? 00:08:26 Speaker 3: On percent? How many of you have a liberal boyfriend? 00:08:31 Speaker 1: You have a liberal boyfriend, don't bowe her, pray for her. I'm going to tell you can't change them. That's tell right now, you can't change No, you're great. But so, how how does a young lady know? And is it ever too early to get married? If they're twenty two and they feel as if they found the right guy? Is that too early? 00:08:58 Speaker 2: I well, if if you're either way, whether you're young or whatever age you are, I think going through. I know it has a stigma, but premarital is amazing. You get to learn so much about the person you're with, and I have seen it prevent marriages that should not be happening because they are so young and naive with things, and they're so lustful because they haven't gone down the road of having you know, they're saving themselves, so they're just like salivating. Go to pre marital you'll learn a lot when you know he's the one. Here's an example when Charlie sat across Romani said, I. 00:09:35 Speaker 3: Want to date you. 00:09:37 Speaker 2: You want to be with someone who has every intention to not mess with your heart. 00:09:41 Speaker 3: You're going to know. 00:09:43 Speaker 2: I know it sounds cliche, but you will know he's not gonna he's not going to treat you like an option. 00:09:49 Speaker 1: How what advice would you give to young ladies where they are much more more motivated than their boyfriend. How many of you have this problem? Raise your hands? Oh that's tough, big. I think it's a big problem. 00:10:02 Speaker 3: Yeah. 00:10:02 Speaker 1: Now I think that they you should both be motivated. But if the if the woman is much more motivated than the man, would you agree that ends up causing structurally right. 00:10:12 Speaker 2: Because that because the man then ends up leaving his pants on the ground and the woman has to put them on, and so then she becomes the bread winner because then the husband's just chill and is like, I'm fine with, you know, not going any further than the level that I'm at, while the woman is aspiring to be more and more and more. So then you become uneven and unequally yoked in your relationship or marriage. 00:10:35 Speaker 3: And that's just a recipe for me. 00:10:37 Speaker 1: It becomes disordered. And there there wasn't a ton of hands, but there were enough where it's a noticeable, uh issue. And I find it from the young male perspective that there's a whole longer speech I could give about the problems with male masculinity. How many of you think that the current dating pool of young men is not great? Raise your hand? Okay, so no, no, this is very important. Every hand went up. This is very important. What if I told you if every hand of young men think that the dating pool of young women is not great? So who's right? Oh, you guys are right? Okay, Okay, I encourage you all to have a little more humility about them. What is one thing young women can do better to make themselves more appealing to men who say that the current dating pool of young women is lackluster. I ask good questions. Yes, I do this for Eles. 00:11:46 Speaker 2: That's why he has such a good podcast and radio show that. 00:11:50 Speaker 1: Charlie kirkshak you guys liking these questions. 00:11:54 Speaker 2: You know, this might be so simple by people pick up on the way you speak. I'm not talking about you know, if you sound smart or whatever I'm. 00:12:03 Speaker 3: Saying, they will pick up. 00:12:05 Speaker 2: If you curse, they will pick up if you're speaking life over someone. Men hate when women are gossiping. Literally, the fire behind your lips is so powerful. And if you can find a way to harness your tongue in a way that's biblical, and you dress appropriately, you don't have everything hanging out, you will attract a different type of guy. 00:12:30 Speaker 3: Now, if you're going to the. 00:12:31 Speaker 2: Club or wherever you're going, and you're trying to appease a guy, that is, are you going to bring him to your mom? 00:12:42 Speaker 3: Are you going to bring him to your grandparents? 00:12:43 Speaker 4: Like? 00:12:44 Speaker 2: Really, just be the type of woman the godly woman that God needs you to be to attract the man that He made for you. 00:12:51 Speaker 3: That's what you need to be. 00:12:58 Speaker 5: This is Lane Schoenberger, chief investment Officer and founding partner of y Refi. It has been an honor and a privilege to partner with Turning Point and for Charlie to endorse us. 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Go to y refight dot com. That is why are e f y dot com Private student loan debt relief wyrefi dot com. Young men have serious problems. I'm we're working on fixing that right. And it's easy to laugh, but you need you need young men. You do and understand that young men are in a far sicker position right now than young ladies are. They're committing suicide more, they're checking out a society, they are on more anti they're on a lot of there's a lot of issues, and it's easy to kind of make fun of young men. But a society needs strong men, and we need husbands and we need fathers, and everyone in this room should be part of that project of making men strong against everyone. And so let me first say what young young men need to embrace. How many of you would agree that self control is an attractive quality that's hard to find in men. Every man, every hand goes out right. I totally. I say this to young men all the time that a young lady cares more that if you can control your impulses and control your desires, because is a signal of what maturity, not of infancy. Self control is a signal of maturity. And a young lady, whether she can articulate it or not, when she sees maturity in a man, she knows that when there's chaos, that man will be able to navigate the family, the relationship through that kind of environment. Young ladies need to be willing to submit to a godly man when you meet one, and if you're not willing to do that, then you've got to pray about that. Because a lot of young men in the dating pool say, I don't want to be bossed around all the time. I'm just telling you what I hear from men all the time. The hypertoxic feminism is very, very off putting to young men. And I know this is contrary to what a lot of people here on college campuses. You know, you have to assert your dominance, you have to kind of call your shot. That's fine. However, an attitude in the dating pool is that it can be very off putting to young men that are already put down so much in our society. They're called talk masculine, they're called you know who needs men, the patriarchy. And so then they just largely disengage, or they do even a worse thing, which is they get involved, like I'm just going to sleep with a bunch of women. I'm not going to marry them. Right, The problem is on both sides in my personal opinion, and again I think that Erica hit it perfectly. Last thing I'll say, and then we'll do some questions, is men want what they cannot have. Men will do anything to solve the problem of scarcity anything. And if men can get you quite easily, that is not an attractive quality to be able to have a man go on a journey with you. I'm just being very very honest with you. And there is one thing that men want more than anything else, and it's not bitcoin you know what it is. And as women have not been saving themselves for marriage, and men too, in the last thirty or forty years, we've seen marriage rates collapse, there is a one to one correlation on those two things. And so all that to say that everybody in this room, you have more power than I think you could ever imagine. If everybody in this room collectively said that we are only going to save ourselves for our future husbands, men will grow up in a way that you would never imagine. You can't believe because all of a sudden, they be like, because you understand, hookup culture has given men everything they've always wanted. They don't have to work for sex, they don't have to grow up, they don't have to do anything, and then women will just throw themselves at them and they could stay as grown infants for the rest of their life. And unfortunately, it does a lot of damage to young ladies, a lot. It does a lot of psychological damage and a lot of spiritual damage. So if everyone here basically said nope, we're gonna combine our power and be pure and trust in Jesus and in God for our future husband, you would be shocked at how much the dating pool improves. Okay, I want to tell you about one thing and then we'll do a question line. We have a special who would love to meet Erica Riley Gains and get a picture of me. I'm sure that that would be a lot of fun, right, all right, So we have a special giveaway if you guys follow the QR codes on our screen, subscribe to the podcast, and then email at Freedom at Charliekirk dot com. We'll pick ten winners, but you have to follow the QR code in the next couple minutes. So follow that QR code, subscribe and email us proof of subscription Freedom at Charliekirk dot com. You know it's awesome. Women are much better rule followers than men, so I know that all of you are going to get that right. No, it's true men. If you guys, one of the most important things that I can leave you with before we go to questions. If you want to find your future soulmate, you must desire to humbly know male nature. How many people here think you know male nature? Anybody? Only if you are married? Can you raise your hand? Yeah? Okay, male nature is easier to make fun of, but a lot deeper than you realize. Raise your hand. Do you think that men are better at let me put it this way, Raise your hand. If you think that men are better at micro tech tasks than women details? Anybody? Okay, a couple hands? Raise your hand. If you think that men are better at macro tasks than women. Raise your hand. Okay, you're right, it's not even close. Okay, macro. If two people are talking on a college campus and I told you they were talking about sports, they were talking about the stock market or politics, is it more likely to be a man two men or two women two men. If I tell you that two people in a college campus are talking about their relationships, the conversations they had earlier in the day, and what fellow classmates were wearing, is it two men or two women micro versus macro. You must understand that a man might forget to shower for three days because he's too worried that we're going to go to a nuclear warthroon. Men are obsessed with the macro, and they often forget the micro. This is why corporations want to hire you so badly. Understand this because you are incredibly good at micro tasks. That is why young women have been so well paid in the corporate environment, because when it comes to getting details done, women are much better than men. No male nature, and you'll be a much better chance to find your future husband. Okay, we'll start right there. Is that Okay, Hi, what's your name? 00:20:39 Speaker 6: My name is Carisa. Charlie and Erica, thank you for saying yes and being obedient to what God has for you, and it's really shaped my life and everyone else here. I would love to know your thoughts on Sabbath and how practically your family practices this and applies it. 00:21:00 Speaker 2: I will let him talk, but as the wife, I will say I have seen it transform I already. I love my husband and he's amazing and an intentional father and husband, but him honoring the Sabbath, I have seen it transform him in a way that is so powerful that when he turns his phone off and it goes in that drawer and he and I know that it's you know, he's all on for the family. There is no distractions and he finally gets to reset his brain. 00:21:31 Speaker 3: He finally gets to breathe. 00:21:33 Speaker 2: And as a wife, there is nothing more precious than my husband's sanity when it comes to the echo chamber and. 00:21:41 Speaker 3: Everything that he's dealing with in his world. So I have seen it change. 00:21:44 Speaker 2: Him and impact our family in one of the most beautiful ways. 00:21:48 Speaker 1: But I want him to well, thank you, Sar. And we're very serious Sabbath keepers. This would be an exception because we're here with all of you. But we'll do it on Sunday, we actually take the traditional Jewish Sabbath. If you don't want to do that, I'm not here to debate you on it. It's fine. If you want to do it privately, I'll beat you. But that's a whole separate issue. But it's fine. It doesn't It actually doesn't matter that much. What does matter is I think that to our own detriment and to our own failure, we as Christians, have decided to cast away resting on one of the seven days. God rests that after creation, that comes before the Hebrews, it comes even before the creation of the of the of the modern world and civilization as we know it. And so we honor the Sabbath. We are very serious about it. We get to spend more time with our family. We do no news, we do no work. And it says very very clearly in the scriptures, for six days you shall work, and the seventh day you shall rest. If you are feeling overrun by society, you might be feeling depressed or anxious, here's this one way that you might be able to improve. Turn your phone off for one day, no contact, no social media, no work, your mental health will improve dramatically. You can you can hang out with friends, if you can go for a walk, but don't work. For that is a day for worship. That is a day for the Lord. That is a day to go be with God. That is a day to read your Bible and be out of the busyness and the hurried nous and the just the anger and the noise of this world. Go back to God's natural rhythm. And it's made our family much tighter knit. And I could be traveling for five or six days, but if I at least get one good sab with my family, it charges all back up. So God bless you. Thank you so much, and Shabat shalum tonight. 00:23:34 Speaker 7: Hi Charlie and Erica. My name is Savannah. This is Lilah Esther and we have another one on the way in January. So I did find my godly Man and we are. 00:23:46 Speaker 1: Making more babies. 00:23:48 Speaker 8: My question for you is, we want to have a lot of kids, and I'm wondering what your best advice is for young couples with small children on how to prioritize and nurture their marriage. Amiss the busy day to day life of kids. 00:24:02 Speaker 2: That's a very good question because your marriage came first, and your husband is very important. Because your kids, you're raising them to fly, You're raising them to leave the nest, they'll always come back. 00:24:13 Speaker 3: And once they do. 00:24:15 Speaker 2: I think that's why people get empty nest syndrome, because they look at their husband in an empty living room and they're like, who are you? 00:24:21 Speaker 3: I have to relearn you. You want to grow with your husband. 00:24:24 Speaker 2: That is going to be very acrobatic at times, even if that means locking yourself in a closet with your husband for just an hour to say, can I breathe with you? Can I just five minutes? Can I just have a second to look at you. Something that Charlie does that's really sweet that I love is that sometimes, especially when he's traveling, we don't obviously we figure out the dynamic. 00:24:47 Speaker 3: Of at least having a date night at least once a month at least, but there will be moments. 00:24:52 Speaker 2: Where he's literally about to rush out the door and I won't see him for several days. Kids are wreaking havoc in the kitchen, pulling things out all over, and he just and he's like one minute and we just literally stare at each other for a minute and say like, I love you, whatever you need to say, but you just we have that one minute together to reset our hearts. And honestly, that is something that we that helps recharge the bucket until you get that date night. So just being really intentional about little moments that will build into a greater good for the relationship. 00:25:22 Speaker 1: But I know you I agree with all that. Just prioritize obviously your marriage actually comes before your kids. I know that's a provocative thing to say, but it's true. Your relationship with your kids is important, yes, but it's not covenantal right, it's your Your marriage is a covenant. Your relationship with your kids is an outgrowth of a covenant. They're under your stewardship. But covenantal relationships are ones that we saw with Abraham and David and Israel and of course Jesus. That idea of marriage being a covenant is a big, big deal. In fact, only marriage in the Bible is compared to Christ's relationship with the Church. So always prioritize your marriage. Thank you. 00:26:09 Speaker 9: Good conversation is about showing respect. 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I'm eighteen years old and I was homeschool and I. 00:27:08 Speaker 3: Just graduated high school. 00:27:10 Speaker 11: And with graduating high school comes to question of so what are you going to do? 00:27:16 Speaker 3: Yeah, And to be honest in. 00:27:18 Speaker 11: My career, like I want to be a mom and I want to have kids, and I want to homeschool them and I want to stay at home with them, and that's just not a really acceptable answer. And I'm struggling to really know what i want to do in the meantime while I'm waiting to get married and have kids because I'm not dating and I don't see anybody that I really want to date, and so I'm just I have a lot of friends who are in this same position too, of being in this weird waiting period where I don't want to go to college and I don't want to commit to a career that I know that I'm going to abandon once. 00:27:47 Speaker 3: I have kids. 00:27:48 Speaker 11: So I was just wondering if you'll had any advice for that, and if you had any advice with dealing with criticism, because I'm having some from an extended family. 00:27:58 Speaker 2: What I know, we talked about don't follow your don't follow your heart and all that. 00:28:03 Speaker 1: Don't follow your heart. It's a bad idea to do that, you laugh, but the Bible is very clear the heart is wicked. 00:28:09 Speaker 3: Yeah, do not. 00:28:10 Speaker 1: Follow your heart. Your talents, right, Yes, that's correct. Yeah, I mean, so look, what are you good at? 00:28:15 Speaker 3: What are you talented at? I love people. 00:28:18 Speaker 11: I love talking to people all the time and honestly turning point usay like Alex Clark has really shaped my life. I got really into culture of Popcario. It's kind of change my life. And I mean, I would love to get involved in health and wellness, but I feel like there's not a really clear path for a career in that. I feel like most people just kind of happen to fall into it because of life circumstances. And I don't really know where to start for that. 00:28:40 Speaker 1: You'd be surprised. I mean, like, so I could give you a million ideas, but the first thing is you're already thinking about this correctly, which is your aim. You got your aim right, which is important. And by the way, if your aim is career, I'm not saying that's bad. At least you are clear. Don't confuse yourself of your aim. We are aiming creatures. We need something to point at. I mean, look, there's a million things you could do. You could work at a mobile IVY clinic right as an administrator. Like, there's a lot of stuff you could do in that kind of maha space. I would are you from Texas? I'm guessing yeah, from here? Okay, yeah, great, And Dallas actually has a huge infrastructure of like New Maha small businesses. You could work at those kind of around that kind of genre and that outreach. I will say though, that don't if you find your future husband and he is godly and it passes premarital counseling, which Eric is exactly right, do not appease extended family. You only really have one thing to worry about, which is the fear of the Lord. Right now, let me just can we riff on premarital counseling for a second. It's very, very important and it shouldn't get a bad taboo. If you are anybody currently engaged right now, I'm sure there's some Okay, awesome, praise the Lord. It's amazing. Aren't you from Canada or something? Yeah, I remember you you found a husband. We'll talk in a second. We'll talk in a second. I remember. That's great. I hope you did not find your partner here at y WLS. I hope you. I'm kidding. So now I'm kidding. I'm kidding. I'm kidding. So at SaaS right, So primaral counseling, who's going to control the finances, Who's going to wake up in the middle of the night if the kid has an issue. Are you gonna have kids? How many kids are you gonna raise the kids Protestant or Catholic? Are you going to read the Bible? Are you Here's a good question in premarital counseling that most won't ask, and you got this will save you a lot of problems. Are you a open or closed house? Who here grew up in an open house where all the kids would come by in the neighborhood. You know what I'm talking about, right? How many of you was raised in a closed house where your parents? Okay, it's important, though, Has anyone ever told you when you look in a spouse to ask that question? Were you raised in an open or closed house? It's incredibly important because all of a sudden, if you raise, if you if you marry an open house person. This was not an issue for us, thankfully at all, but I've seen it destroy marriages, and they've recovered some not an open house person marries a closed house person, they get married, they're inviting all their friends over all the time, barbecue open up. The closed house person is like, this is crazy. I wasn't raised like this and none of that gets filtered in the engagement. That's one of like a hundred questions that would be a good book. We could write one hundred questions you should ask before you get married, right, that would be a good book. 00:31:33 Speaker 3: But go ahead, No, no, no, I was just saying the home is sacred. 00:31:35 Speaker 1: I could go on, but that's like you just have to What premarital counseling should do, which it does a bad job of in most churches, is you must really know the nature of your spouse introvert extrovert. What is their love language? Right? Do they need time alone? Do they get filled up when you spend time with them, or when they come home and they're beat down and they need time alone. Here's a good one that almost no pastor will ever tell tell you. What is a vice that your spouse struggles with, and what is an acceptable vice and an unacceptable vice. So, for example, an acceptable device might be that you'll allow alcohol. We don't drink, right, so that for us. I'm not saying you have to do that, but for us, that's what works. So it's not even a question. Some men like cigars. I think they smell like, you know, dead raccoons, But that's fine. Are you willing to smell a cigar? Have you ever smelled a cigar? Will your house be able to withstand cigar smoke? Inside? You're laughing? This is the stuff that breaks apart marriages. This is the stuff that creates isolation, and it must be flushed out in the engagement period, not in the honeymoon period or two years in and so other vices, which is like, you know, we're not gonna watch R rated movies or we're not gonna swear. You'd be amazed at how many marriages all of a sudden, you know, the husband's just drop an F bomb. She's like, whoa, whoa, whoa, Like, we don't do that around here? You see this? Who's gonna cook? Right? What does it mean to take time off? Here's another one? What type of vacations are you guys going to take? This is very important? 00:33:08 Speaker 4: Right? 00:33:09 Speaker 1: What I should write the book? 00:33:11 Speaker 3: Yeah? 00:33:11 Speaker 1: Right, but no, but think about it. Because Erica grew up in a camping family, right, yes, we get how many of you guys are camping families? 00:33:19 Speaker 4: Yes? 00:33:20 Speaker 1: Yeah, how many of you guys think camping is like for Neanderthals? Raise your hands gay, I'm an eagle scout. If it's a necessity for survival, I'll go camping. Okay. 00:33:30 Speaker 3: His camping is like the Foreseas. 00:33:32 Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, Okay, No, I have no shame in that. Okay. I have a busy life. I get like three days off a year. I'm not going to like hang my food by a tree for the three days off I have a year. Okay. That dog's not gonna hunt for other families. They think it's like invigorating and exhilarating, right to like run from the wolves at night or something I don't know, or like, hey, we're gonna go do a road trip. Road trip really in an ur in an r V. Oh sounds interesting. 00:34:09 Speaker 2: That's like Charlie's the worth nightmare to be stuck in a moving vehicle at multiple for multiple hours. 00:34:14 Speaker 1: I had to go into a trailer that's an r V, and they said, isn't this nice? So rather go to Alcatraz? Then he's stuck in this thing. It's just it's just everything. 00:34:24 Speaker 2: He went on a cruise once and that was the last time we'd ever go on to go. 00:34:27 Speaker 1: It's it's just terrible, which I mean, I this is important because you might think you know your spouse and all of a sudden you book like a seven day cruise in a Caribbean and it's non refundable and he has. 00:34:39 Speaker 2: The head I didn't do this, by the way, I just tried, but he Charlie had. 00:34:42 Speaker 1: The head band I had I was doing. I get totally sea sick. It's terrible. Yeah, it's you have to know the nature right and unfortunately, and we can kind of we say we want to get married early, but that does not mean you should get married in a rushed way. So two different things. Early and rushing are not synonyms. Thank you. I hope that was someone helpful that we took a lot of detours there. 00:35:11 Speaker 10: Oh do you want to hold it? 00:35:12 Speaker 1: Okay, Hey, so you're getting married? Yes, amazing. 00:35:19 Speaker 10: So, speaking of which, I have a wedding planning question. I know that this sounds a bit weird. So essentially I am facing visa visa delays. How do I deal with the disappointment and the feeling of status of having to plan for a peak winter wedding in the state of Wisconsin. 00:35:45 Speaker 1: Wait, so, okay, is it a visa question or is it. 00:35:49 Speaker 10: It's so basically because of the visa delays, which is beyond anyone's beyond pretty much anyone's control. How do I plan for? Okay, I am going to have a wedding in the peak winter when there's snow outside, when when it's really really cold, like and I'm feeling disappointed and sad about it. 00:36:11 Speaker 3: You shouldn't. The winter is actually really beautiful. 00:36:14 Speaker 2: There's something really I know, it's cold, you can figure out the outfit. You can wear a really beautiful shawl over yourself. There's way more options for winter attire. 00:36:25 Speaker 3: Than the typical think of it. 00:36:28 Speaker 2: This way, your wedding is going to be amazing because you're not having to have the florals. 00:36:33 Speaker 1: And they'll save a bunch of money. 00:36:35 Speaker 3: You'll save a ton of money. 00:36:39 Speaker 2: Yes, you'll get a killer deal. But there's something special about the winter season. 00:36:44 Speaker 3: There really is. 00:36:45 Speaker 2: And because what comes after winter spring Metaphorically you are springing into a new season of life. You're springing into a beautiful marriage. Embrace the snow, Embrace the beauty of it. It might not be ideally what you want, and that's that's okay, because God's challenging you to release that. The wedding day is a wedding day, it's really not for you. It's for your family. It's important on the altar, that is for you. 00:37:13 Speaker 3: But I'm talking about the party. It's really not for you. It's to entertain everyone else. 00:37:18 Speaker 2: So just hold true to the fact that what matters the most, regardless of the season, is the man and the woman standing at the altar and that covenant you're making. It could be raining, it could be snowing, it could be one hundred and some degrees like our wedding, that didn't stop us. 00:37:34 Speaker 3: What's so important is. 00:37:36 Speaker 2: That marriage and that because when you guys get married, that's your family. Your husband's your family, everyone else's relatives, that's your husband. 00:37:45 Speaker 1: Congratulations, And I want to use you as an example. What's your name again, Vicki? And that was last year when you gave the question two years ago, so. 00:37:53 Speaker 10: That was in twenty twenty four, so that was last year. 00:37:55 Speaker 1: So Vicky came up last year and said, how do I meet a husband? And she made her priority and a year later she's engaged. Howesome, Thank you very much, we got thank you. Thank you. Next question, Yes, hi. 00:38:09 Speaker 3: Erica, Charlie. 00:38:10 Speaker 4: I'm Melissa, and my question is I'm twenty and I'm single and I want to get married young. However, every almost every woman in my life is telling me that I'm not missing out anything. 00:38:19 Speaker 3: Do you have any response to that? The women, the women that are married. Yes, well that's so sad, so sad, that's really sad. 00:38:29 Speaker 1: What what what I mean as far as like having kids or the relationship. 00:38:32 Speaker 3: Or just like getting married young. Because when I tell people like. 00:38:36 Speaker 4: My parents are really supportive about it, but when I tell other people, like in church, like outside of church, I want getty young, they look down on me. Like why they like they tell me to, you know, get go to college, to get a career. So like, what is like a good response to that? 00:38:50 Speaker 3: And like what should I be doing? 00:38:52 Speaker 4: Because I don't I don't feel like I'm missing out, but I'm not sure, Like what I should be doing? 00:38:56 Speaker 1: What church do you go to? I must have missed it in Matthew, which is go forth and become a CEO of a shoe company. It'd be fruitful and multiply. I mean, first of all, you are hitting a very fundamental and precious point. I've said for a long time, we as Christians have done a crappy job of glorifying and celebrating marriage it. In fact, when we first got married, I heard almost more negatives than positives. I hope you're going to be have your handcuffs or oh, marriage is the most awesome thing ever. Everybody it's amazing. 00:39:31 Speaker 2: And I think it's because they didn't have good examples to look towards themselves. So they either settled or they're not happy because either something in their life they didn't settle and get fixed prior to getting marriage. 00:39:46 Speaker 3: They're unequally yoked. 00:39:48 Speaker 2: It's sad, but honestly, I feel like it's like I talked about, that's a form of spiritual warfare, Like the enemies will use anybody to keep you from where God needs you. You to be so smile and wave, just be like, I'm so sorry that happened to you. It's not gonna happen to me. And you just you say, I'll be praying for you. I mean, marriage is beautiful, don't let that deter you. It's another thing too. I'd like motherhood's the same thing. There are so many Christian moms who will get on social media and they'll say I'm so tired, I need wine. My child's driving me nuts like, no. 00:40:28 Speaker 3: No, motherhood is beautiful. 00:40:30 Speaker 2: It's exhausting, but it's beautiful, and it's not gonna be those sleepless nights. Yeah, one day, your kid's probably not gonna go home until midnight, So the sleepless nights gets like a little bit construed. But you will sleep again, you will have you know your time again. 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So I'm wondering what your advice is for balancing those two desires and what to prioritize at what stage in your life. Since women can't have it all. 00:43:39 Speaker 3: Women they can't. 00:43:44 Speaker 2: They can have it all, but it's not simultaneously, like different seasons. Your career, again, like I said, is not going anywhere. So what you're establishing now on YouTube and your platform and all that stuff. 00:43:56 Speaker 3: It's not going anywhere. 00:43:57 Speaker 2: What I will recommend though, is when you do have children, do not use your children as ponds for a discount code. Do not use your child for a free stroller for some influencer thing. Your children are sacred. Protect them. That is your role as a mother. Your platform was given to you by God, so stewart it well and Stuart properly. But it's not going to go anywhere. What you're building now is not going to get destroyed. I think that's what a lot of people get misconstrued is thinking like, Okay, what I'm building now is going to be worthless once I have a family. No, God will redirect it. He'll turn it into whatever it needs to turn into. Pray on it because it's not always super clear, but it will come to you. And I think that, Yes, every season is going to come and have its own time and turn. But if this is what you're focusing on right now, like that's what you're focusing. 00:44:49 Speaker 3: On, I mean, I don't. 00:44:52 Speaker 1: I think you're in a great spot honestly. And Erica answered it beautifully. So again, you have to always prioritize what you what matters most, and with that, the Lord will open up the right doors. Thank you. All right, let's see how quick this one is. This might be the last question. 00:45:08 Speaker 13: Yes, okay, hi guys, my ning is Lily. So one thing is a piece of advice I'd love the other is a question whichever one you guys have time for. So, first of all, with gentle parenting and then you have like abusive homes, what is the balance of biblical discipline and love? And also I would love advice for if you know you have a godly guy in your life. You guys agree on a lot of things spiritually and politically, but you still feel like there's a little bit more maturity that ends to go, how do you wait on the Lord and how do you go about that. 00:45:38 Speaker 3: I'll take the second one. 00:45:40 Speaker 2: That's say, I'll take the first one too, but I want to hear. 00:45:43 Speaker 3: I mean, it's powerfully hearing. Father. 00:45:44 Speaker 1: The most important thing as a parent is that you must instill self control and not self esteem for your kid. Whatever it takes, you must have them understand the power of restraint, which is a fruit of the spirit. Remember self control is a fruit of the spirit. That's much easier said than done. Right, I could tell you more about what not to do and what we're not doing them what we're doing because we're still figuring it out, but we know what not to do. It is a it is a civilizational tragedy. When Eric and I go out with our two kids to eat and we go look at another family and everyone has their eyes on a screen. So I just it is so beyond I don't want to sound judgmental. Maybe they had like a long day at work or something. I really find no excuse whatsoever because these kids put on these headphones and they just escape reality, staring at these screens all day long. And it's it's really really bad everybody, and it's totally unnecessary. We have a very hyperactive two year old. You just you have to just have them color something, have them right, bring I bring. 00:46:49 Speaker 2: An arsenal of a backpack. I have plato, I have paints, I have anything. You can imagine. You just load up that bag. And that's what you're teaching them. You make it fun. Here's your fancy napkin, you get to order like this is really special. If they have to get up and go outside and run around, so be it. But you're teaching them how to interact with adults. You're teaching them how to be patient. If you're putting a screen in front of them, you're teaching them a way to escape. 00:47:15 Speaker 1: The data shows this, but we anecdotally can confirm this even like five minutes of screen time, they get braddier. Yeah, they get more unruly, They just kind of get disconnected from where they are. We could see a total behavioral difference with our daughter as soon as there's like a screen introduced, even. 00:47:31 Speaker 2: If it's just Spotify, like if even if she's like, I want to choose my song? 00:47:35 Speaker 3: Do you want to do so? And she but like five minutes later she's like, you can't. 00:47:41 Speaker 1: It's like she's droned in. So we have one screen for the whole family central and it's same as Matt Walsh and I kind of got this from him. There's agreed upon stuff that we're allowed to watch as a family, and it's a very very short list, right, It's like Bob Ross, Mister Rogers, and then the Chicago Cubs and the Charlie Kirkshow and the Charlie Kirkshaw And we don't allow it later in the day unless the clubs are playing. That's a whole separate issue. They happen, they happen to be good this year, and then maybe some college football. But that's like we're so careful because and that we can do the whole parenting. But as far as this. This is a very difficult thing and it's hard for It's very hard actually, but it must be said. You are not your kid's friend, right, that is like it is I know that it sounds easy to hear you are their parents. It is a it is an up and down relationship. It is. It is not a horizontal one. You are not there equal. And I see in public sometimes these parentings displays that it's so sad where it's just placation. The parent is being held hostage by the child. It is it is like a ongoing blackmail operation. No, I'm not kidding where it's like give me candy or else. I riot it's like completely different than like be it's no different than BLM. It's like, you know, give me something or else I'm going to tear down. No, seriously, it's like no, you need rules in order. And like Eric has been amazing. You deserve so much credit. Like sometimes you leave the restaurant sometimes like nope, we're done. Actually you made a fool of yourself. We're done. We gave you one last warning, right and final thing is that And Alex Clark has been phenomenal on this. She deserves a lot of credit she does, and it's it's informed us amongst Bobby Kennedy and others. What you are putting into your kids really matters, especially sugar carbohydrates. How they behave If you feed them good stuff, parenting becomes easier, not easy, but. 00:49:43 Speaker 3: Easier, truly, truly, I forget what. 00:49:47 Speaker 1: Your question gentle parenting and the maturity of a man. He's not quite there yet. He's not as mature as she would like. 00:49:53 Speaker 3: I would have him find someone. 00:49:55 Speaker 2: If you have a solid church that you go to, I would share that with you as a pastor or someone within the church that you look up to, and have a male figure pour into him, not a stranger or not an uncle or not a brother, someone totally a separate party that's not connected. It can be private, but have him go and get mentored once twice a week and really just have someone he can look towards to see like this is the way to be a bit. 00:50:20 Speaker 1: He needs to hear one thing, just one sentence. You will lose her if you don't grow up. If he hears that, radical change will happen. If the right person says that he doesn't need a whole feeling session. We don't need that as men, we don't need emotionality. No, no, you need conviction, an order and a challenge, and we need like high stakes and if we hear, you're going to lose what you take for granted if you don't watch radical change in Sue. Thank you, last question. 00:50:48 Speaker 12: Sorry weeks so hades. 00:50:50 Speaker 3: Gek's so awesome. 00:50:52 Speaker 14: Hi guys, my name is Violet. I'm from San Antonio. I'm super emotional as well. I'm sure I'm not the only one, and I also know that men are very logical and kind of have our time with that. So I was wondering, Charlie, what do you do to really nurture Erica's emotional side when your boy brain is like trying to answer every question. 00:51:14 Speaker 1: And be allowed to go with her. It's a great question. This is why understanding female nature to the best of our ability as men is very important. And again we've had like different configurations of a men's summit, but I talk to men a lot on campus and through my content and stuff. But it's what I tell them is that you must understand God wired us a lot differently. The biggest thing is really time time with your spouse. Time to have your spouse be able to think or talk about that specific situation that has them maybe fired up. Right. And then also sometimes men look at we have a problem where we think we are the firefighter to put out a fire. We see problem, we want to fix it. Right. We see broken engine, we come to repair it. 00:52:05 Speaker 4: Right. 00:52:06 Speaker 1: Sometimes the solution is just talking about the problem, which for us is like an incomprehensible thing. It's like, wait, why would you talk about the problem and not solve the problem? Because sometimes the problem is the fact that it hasn't been talked about. Am I right? I understand female nature, and it's like for men, it's like it's like what do you It's like a distant thing. And similarly for you when you have husbands, right, it might drive you crazy that you can't And Eric and I we talk about this. You can't get out more than three? I was your day? Fine? You know, what would you do today? Stuff? 00:52:47 Speaker 3: A lot of stuff. 00:52:48 Speaker 1: It's not an insult to you. 00:52:50 Speaker 10: Now. 00:52:50 Speaker 1: They're tired, tired, and our brains work differently, right. It's for women, conversation, especially conversation about nothing, is therapeutic. Okay, I'm sorry, it's very cathartic. 00:53:05 Speaker 2: Okay. 00:53:06 Speaker 1: For men, it's exhausting, right, And for us we like to unplug and we like to watch or see somebody else do something hard. That's what sports is, right, or a movie like For us, we either want to do hard things or watch other people do hard things. That's like men in a nutshell. Okay, we either want to be the ones doing the hard thing like mowing the lawn or chopping down a tree, right, or we want to watch other people do hard things. Okay. For women, they're like, well, let's talk for forty five minutes. And there's nothing wrong about that. Emotionality is a beautiful thing. This is why we are not AI right, we're not chat GPT. We have a soul right, and God made us different for a reason. And and I just want to brag on the women of America because there's a lot of bashing of like finism, and there should be. There's a lot of bashing of women in the country of like how they veered off track, some of which honestly is warranted. But the one thing that is not talked about enough is how women have kept church attendants and the faith alive in the West in a much better job than men. The last third no, it's a very real thing. This is why Mother's Day church service is one of the highest attendants of the year besides Easter and Christmas. Why what do you want from Mother's Day? Honey? I want to bring the entire family to church. What do you want for Father's Day? Honey? I don't know golf or watch golf. Remember do hard things, watch people do hard things. I don't want to go to church. By the way, let me just say, for men out there that are listening in the internet, if you do not lead your family to church, it is the number one predictor that your children will not also go to church. But it deserves so the women. You deserve so much credit for keeping church attendants alive, for serving in the churches, for volunteering in the church, for keeping the entire faith robust. And now we're seeing a resurgence of young men finally come back at something I don't think that's always articulated of how the American church has really been saved and strengthened by women in America. 00:55:13 Speaker 2: Final thoughts, So, something that he does support into me emotionally is or to just check in from that standpoint, is if he comes home. 00:55:24 Speaker 3: He's tired, how did you day? Great? 00:55:26 Speaker 2: Blah blah blah, and I'm still cooking whatever on this on his sabbath, when he has a moment, he writes me a note. He has not missed one. He writes me a note, either leaves it on my pillow, hands it to me. I have saved every single one of them in those notes are what refill me emotionally if I need that filling. 00:55:47 Speaker 3: He's very good about that. 00:55:48 Speaker 2: So when you're in a relationship, how it's important to know your spouse's nature, it's also important to know your own. What do you want him to do to help pour into your emotional side? Is something that makes you tick in your heart tick? Do you want him to write you a note? Do you want him to tell you you're beautiful? Do you want him to take you on a date. Do you want him to bring you flowers? Do you hate flowers? Do you want a cake? Like you learn what will speak to you so that you can check that box in your head, even on a day where he says five words, but he brought you flowers, and you're like, wow, I feel loved. 00:56:21 Speaker 3: I get it. 00:56:22 Speaker 2: Just like be sure to communicate that though he can't read your brain. It's the famous thing of where do you want to go eat for dinner? 00:56:30 Speaker 3: I don't care. We'll go to Chipotle. 00:56:32 Speaker 2: I don't want Chipotle like you need to be able to know your own nature, to tell your husband, not train him. 00:56:39 Speaker 3: But is a team. 00:56:41 Speaker 2: This is what I want, This is what I expect. 00:56:43 Speaker 3: I love you so much. Please, this is. 00:56:45 Speaker 2: How you can pour into me. How can I pour into you? Charlie and I check in with each other every single day. How can I serve you better? What can I do for you to make it better when you get home? Is there anything that you need me to have ready for you when you come back from the office or this trip? 00:56:57 Speaker 3: Xyz? He asked me the same thing. 00:56:59 Speaker 2: If I'm not doing something, or even if I'm out with the kids, what can I do? 00:57:03 Speaker 3: How can I make your day better? 00:57:04 Speaker 2: You are a team, and you guys are not at ends with each other, work together, communicate and grow together as equally yoked partnership. 00:57:15 Speaker 1: It's beautiful, and thank you for that. I want to plug one thing and then I will say one last thing to the whole audience, and thank you. I want all of you to start a turning Point USA chapter at your high school or college. Who's your a turning point? You say, chapter leader, raise your hand. We need more of you to go start turning Point USA chapters. You could do so out there. There's amazing giveaways associated The final thing, I'll say two final things and that Eric, do you have any final thoughts Before I get to my two final things, I'll go quick while you think about it. The first of which is we're gonna have a whole Q and A for politics or whatever you want tomorrow or more relationship stuff if you want. Do not talk down to men. Do not engage in this toxic maskin masculinity bashing men. Not only do we need men, the civilization is God created men and women, and it's very tempting to get into the whole kind of girl dominant society. You do not want to live in that world. I'm telling you right now. You do not. You want to live in a world where the best of both sexes are equally balanced. The other thing I'll say, which is kind of funnier. It's hard to put into words how much men want a just like a return to normal things like cooking a meal, like serving in like those fundamental ways. Like that stuff as a husband or even a boyfriend goes beyond measure that I can put into words and. 00:58:38 Speaker 3: Make it fun, be like what do you want to eat? 00:58:40 Speaker 2: And then like have them make a menu and then it's a good challenge for you to like, I cooked swordfish the other night. 00:58:46 Speaker 3: It was okay, it wasn't. 00:58:48 Speaker 1: My best, but it's like great. 00:58:51 Speaker 3: But it goes to say, just make things fun. 00:58:54 Speaker 2: Don't again, don't look at it as I have to. I get to serve my h I get to submit unto my husband because he's submitting himself to the Lord. There is a balance, and there's something really beautiful about that balance. 00:59:08 Speaker 3: If you have a situation where you don't. 00:59:10 Speaker 2: Have someone in your life that you can look towards as a healthy marriage, find seek that out, whether that's in your church, whether that's in your community, whether that's something online. Hold on to that so that you can have some form of an understanding of Okay, this is what I have to look forward to. I'm so excited. And God will make sure that the right man will come in your path. He won't walk past you, he won't miss you. God is always on time, and so is your future husband. So just wait on the Lord and you'll get everything that you've prayed for, and more stuff that you prayed for that you thought you needed. You'll get way beyond that because God knows truly is the desires of your heart. 00:59:50 Speaker 1: If you see anybody that looks lonely, go introduce yourself totally. Make sure you counsel them and make a friend out of them. We want people to leave friends for a lifetime here and we are just getting started. The next couple of days are gonna be life changing. God bless you all. Thank you so much. 01:00:09 Speaker 5: For more on many of these stories and news you can trust, go to Charliekirk dot com